To be detached yet loving is to be mature. The lotus flower is both detached and loving. It is untouched by the dirt it is surrounded with and is beautiful and loving at the same time. In the same way, whatever the situations or the people around us, maturity enables us to be untouched by their negativity. Then we will become the one who is loving too under all circumstances. When we are faced with a negative situation, instead of blaming the situation, maturity lies in working at our own inner strength. The problem could have been created by someone else, but we have to make effort in bringing about the solution. Then we will be able to make things better without having negative feelings towards anyone.